What time is your appointment at Audio Heaven? If I'm in the area I can drop by so you can see for yourself. Reason I think pics are misleading is that it all depends on the angle the shot was taken and the background lighting. But if the car was there and you get a chance to walk around or sit inside and get a feel for it, you'd really know if that's what you want or not.
But considering your demerit points, I'd say maybe stick with 35% all around or 35% front and 23% rears.
The 35% looks nice, so don't start thinking it'll be toooo light of a tint, heck, I think Jeff even refers to it as the "Gentleman's Tint"
Anyways, shoot me a PM and tell me what time your appointment is and I'll let you know if I'll be in the area or not.
-Thuwa